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CW: Unites States-centric politics & sexual assault topics | Views are my own and do not represent my employer, as with all posts.

With lawmakers in Georgia and Alabama on a roll recently, getting legislation passed with extreme hatred towards women's ability to have any sense of control over themselves, it's easy to feel powerless to help, especially under this current unrepresentative control of the federal government.

One thing to remember is that money talks. If you are able to do so – and please, only if you are comfortably able to – take care of yourself first in this “booming economy” – donate.

This morning I donated to Planned Parenthood in response to the absurd, backwards-thinking legislation passing in Alabama and Georgia which will punish those found guilty of false rape accusations with more time in jail on average than those found guilty of rape. 10 years for false allegations which happen so rarely [0] when the average rapist is sentenced to 9.8 years and gets out in 5.4 [1]. Given that we can't trust the justice system to handle police murders of unarmed civilians, and that rape/sexual assault is already so under-reported [2], it stands to reason that this legislation will do nothing but empower rapists.

Just to really drive home the point of hating the idea of women having any sense of agency, conservative lawmakers are also pushing for strict abortion laws, so when you do get raped, you gotta have that baby.

Donating to groups that can help alleviate this backwards situation is valuable. Donating to political campaigns at all levels of government that run on defending the rights of people in this country is valuable. In an age where we have climate change deniers, regressive bible thumpers and serial con-artists at the wheel, showing solidarity with the organizations they so quickly try to scare people away from is something anyone can do to defy this systemic injustice.

Planned Parenthood is one option. Find your local environmental societies and volunteer with them. Help get more women in office by donating to She Should Run. Find out who is running for local elections, or who is running for congress in your district, or districts that may impact you. I donated to the wonderful Mckayla Wilkes who, while not running in my district, is running for the district across the street from me. On that topic, maybe also donate to a group that fights gerrymandering.

Tags: #politics

Privileged Rant Warning

It just happened as I went to type this – my finger brushed against my new work laptop's touchbar, which triggered the URL bar on my browser to focus, which messed up my typing.

How did it get this bad? There's so many inconveniences we just deal with now, and there's not much of a way out. “High end” devices like iPhones or Pixel phones have stripped away stuff like headphone jacks, and now we're supposed to rely on wireless headphones for everything. Great, how can I plug my phone into speakers? Oh, I can't? I need wifi/bluetooth enabled speakers? Great, let me just throw my house out. I don't want to buy your dongles. I shouldn't have to if I paid you $1,000 for this media device.

Everything is in the cloud now and we can control it all from our phones! Amazing! Yet, when I do pretty much anything on my phone, in 2019, when we've had years to optimize all of this, I find myself waiting for things to load or ping servers or hear back from said servers or cache or stream or fetch. Nothing is fast anymore. We've upgraded our processors to incredible speeds, slapped massive solid state storage devices in our mobile supercomputers, but I don't have a cell signal so I guess I'm not listening to my music or watching my movies.

My media which I don't even own, by the way. I thought I did. I used Google Play Music, which I was able to upload my music to in addition to using their library. When they announced they'd be deprecating it and rolling users over into YouTube Music, I wanted to get out. When I went to get my music out, I quickly found that they've all but let the music download app atrophy, so I had to navigate most of it by blindly tabbing through buttons until I got the option to download everything. Then, I couldn't see my download progress. I hope it worked, but I can't be certain. Also, just no notion of downloading movies or TV shows I've bought. Purchased, paid for, but it's only really to stream through their servers. I know that's what I signed up for, but it still hurts to think that I paid for things I can't ever actually “have.” As far as I can tell, there's no reasonable way to go about purchasing and downloading movies or TV shows at all anymore, aside from buying the physical media and ripping it, which is even still legally iffy.

My desktop apps are now all Electron apps, so I'm running a sandboxed Chrome instance per app. I love it when my idling computer decides to blare its fans because Slack is running. Oh, some service I use now has a desktop app! Oh, it's just their website wrapped in Electron. No thank you. If I'm running the same webapp, but on my desktop wrapped in Electron, I have no control around blocking the 14 different tracking and analytics scripts you have running that track my every move, which one could say would create data used to improve the user experience but uh, what if instead, you reduced the overhead, network traffic and memory usage and made the application run well?

I got a USB-C docking station, or wait – no – it's a Thunderbolt 3 docking station. It works great on my new work laptop, and my personal gaming laptop has a Thunderbolt branded port, so I'll plug that in and – oh, it mostly works? Kinda? I guess I'll email their support —– okay they got back to me, and apparently the issue is my computer's manufacturer's Thunderbolt port isn't to spec. So we have this amazing universal new standard, USB-C, but it's also thunderbolt, and also the dock says to specifically use the cable it comes with because not all cables are created equal.

Look, this is all an incredibly first world problem. But in an age where we've got these incredible advances in hardware and technology, we've left consumers with a fractured, sometimes user-hostile experience just because we can get away with it. Most of the examples listed here are micro-annoyances, but if you think about where we could be in terms of connecting people and furthering our technology if we followed a human-first model of designing and building technology rather than a financial-first, or analytics-first model, it gets a little upsetting.

For further takes, give this a read: “Users want control” is a shoulder shrug. It takes this concept from a bit of a different direction.

It snowed a lot yesterday. Maybe 6 or 8 inches of accumulation over the course of just a few hours. Then it was sleeting. Then it rained. This weekend we will see temperatures in the 60's (fahrenheit, luckily, we're not going to die).

Over the past year, my life has changed tremendously. My partner and I got married and moved into a house (in reverse order). My dream of having my own wood shop came true from the house purchase. I made huge decisions about the direction of my biggest game project ever, basically jettisoning the years of planned plot and world building in favor of something simpler and more focused. I've come to learn a lot about myself, my interests and what I really care about.

The snow is melting more quickly than I've ever seen. I can see the ground beneath the snow, not even 12 hours after the snow stopped accumulating. A backyard basement window well flooded with melted snow water.

I became an uncle this morning. My only brother and my sister-in-law had a son. I'm so incredibly happy for them, and I'm trying to navigate the idea of how I will be a part of this kid's life.

We're expecting a lot of rain this weekend. I'll have to keep an eye on that window well.

As I mentioned in a recent post about taking back what's mine, I have continued to disconnect myself from massive services, and lean less on possibly ephemeral product offerings. It has made me think far more critically about the services I use. For all I know,, the platform I'm writing on now, will not exist in a couple of years. I certainly hope not. It's a nice service.

It's going to be windy overnight on Sunday into Monday. I'll have to clear out fallen branches.

I think I'm a happier person now. Although I can find it difficult to maintain interest in some hobbies, I've found that feeling to be driven by a strange sense of commitment. My game project, for example. I had made a huge commitment in my head. Something I could never complete. It became daunting. I made what seemed like a hard choice: rethinking the concept. In reality, I am the only one holding myself to any requirements. The mental block was entirely my own, and my own to break. As always, giving myself a break feels tremendous.

Spring time is on it's way, and I can't wait to have my windows open, and let a fresh breeze roll in.

Over the past couple of years, I've been focusing on getting myself decentralized on the internet. I've largely pulled out of any one ecosystem, and I've moved towards more privacy-respecting services like ProtonMail and

As a part of this movement, I'm also trying to go back to being responsible for my own data. The “”““cloud”“”” has become ubiquitous and I'm pretty over it. I appreciate the convenience for sure, but I don't appreciate when services I depend on are sunset or unavailable, which even in 2019 is still a problem.

I used to not understand people who still want 256 gigs of internal storage on their phones. Now, I get it.

I'm currently trying to reclaim my music library. It is a difficult task. Beyond retrieving the files from Google Music, I now need to seek out all the albums and tracks that I “added to my library” rather than uploaded or purchased. Google said they'd be transferring their music service over to YouTube Music, which is not something I want to use, nor does it seem like it will support the same features I care about in Google Music.

Beyond music, I've dropped my dependency on Google Drive significantly, opting for an independent, encrypted solution. The biggest holdouts I have are calendaring, because the only real options I can find seem to be Google, Microsoft or Apple-based, and photo management, because Google Photos is really good. Though, I'd like to find something I can move to that has similar functionality without doing the creepy facial scans.

All in all, I just want to feel like I actually own my data again. I don't want to be subjected to the will of the service provider. I'm hoping as we move on with a new era of people living in the digital age, we see more people seeking this kind of ownership again, leading to a federated / individual focused renaissance.

Without fail, the second I sit down every morning to work on something, I have a sneezing fit. I'm writing this between sneezes right now. Usually its around 8 to 15 sneezes, though I've had it go on into the 20's and even 30's sometimes.


I have no idea why it happens, but it is always the moment I am inspired to do something and begin trying to do it. Today, it was sitting down to write. I was going to write something totally different, but started sneezing, and figured this would be fine to write about as well.


It can be


It can be when I sit down to code or write, or in the car when I go to do errands, or right as I plan to make a nice breakfast. Really, the second I decide “yes, I should do this thing” and take the first minor step towards doing it – boom.


It's been like this for as long as I can remember. Before I even met my wife, all throughout college, and I can even remember it back into high school, when on the weekends I'd boot up my computer to hack on some game development. I'm still sneezing from game development. Hell, it happened yesterday.

No clue if there's a way to approach fixing this. I'll need to find a way to keep inspiration after waiting out the 10 or so minutes to get back to normal.



I don't think I'm alone in wishing I had more time to pursue passions. Just today, I caught myself talking to my partner about how I'd like to be spending more time contributing to open source projects. I then caught myself lying by saying that between work and a personal project, I just don't have the time.

I immediately called myself on this lie. I knew instantly that time isn't the problem. I will come home from work, make dinner and play games, maybe scroll on some websites for a while to fill time. I have the time. I need to rework what I do with it. With the proper drive, that time can be found.

The real problem is that drive is a far more difficult thing to come by. Time is all around us. We have time. In 2018, it has become so easy to fill that time with mindless actions. I try to keep on a meditation schedule to combat this, but even that doesn't fix a lack of drive, or “will,” or whatever you want to call it. Boy do I wish I had an answer to finding the drive to keep working towards goals. For me, its just something that is either there, or not. It comes and goes in waves. Maybe the next high tide will last a little longer.

Until then, at least I can be honest with myself and push along.

We received a flash drive of our wedding photos. This is one of those rare occasions where I really care about the fate of computer files. I'm a programmer by trade and I've grown distant from “files” over time. I work with hundreds of tiny source files which get indexed and cloned and backed up on remote servers with histories and decentralization and so on. I don't think twice about losing anything.

Yet here I am holding 10 gigabytes of photos, and I am frightened about their future. Where can I put these that is safe? I don't particularly want to keep this flash drive around for the rest of my life. Any files on my hard drive that I care about are copied back up into the cloud, but that doesn't even seem like enough peace of mind for what these are.

I can back up the files to Google Photos, but I've been working to slowly reduce my footprint on their services. I could put them in the “deep storage” section of the cloud sync service I use, but even that seems too ephemeral for something like wedding pictures, which I'm likely going to want to look back on when I'm 70. Do I really think this cloud provider will be around 40, 50, 60 years from now?

Do I print them? Put them in a binder? That seems even more temporary. What is even “temporary” anymore? Is it better to go full digital? We haven't proven digital lifespan for common folk just yet, but on the other hand, printed photos can be lost, torn, burned, destroyed.

At least I have my memories. In the end, the photos just help bring those memories back with more accuracy. Hopefully, I can trust to hold on to those good times for quite a while yet to come.

Every morning, my day starts off with my dog leaping onto my bed and sniffing, pawing, licking and biting at me. Sometimes, he gets so excited that he just starts barking at me right in my face. My wife gets up about an hour before me, and after giving our dog his breakfast and morning outdoor time, she lets him into the bedroom.

Some mornings, I'll lay in bed – half awake – and listen for the sound of my dog's nails on the hardwood floor outside the bedroom. I'll hear the cracking of paint partially adhered to the door jam as my wife begins to open the way with just enough hesitation to keep my dog excited.

I'll pull the covers over my head so he has to look for me. I'll shift my position so he crawls over me instead of just next to me. Any small thing I can do to keep it interesting for him. This outpouring of affection – no matter how energetic it may be for how little light there is outside – is a reminder every morning that I am loved and is the inspiration I need to get up and embrace the world again today.

Being open minded is easy and healthy. I spent years of my life in high school and early college rejecting new ideas and closing off to progressive ideology. I would laugh at people who identified as non-binary, or refer to transgender people as “it” because I was a huge shit-spewing asshole. It was a sad time in my life, looking back, and I was absolutely on-track to have been one of Trump's biggest fans.

Thankfully, I did a complete 180 over the last decade. I was always told that I'd become more conservative as I grew up and had to be a member of society and pay taxes and whatnot. Well, I pay taxes now, and I want those taxes to fund socialized medicine and give everyone the physical and mental healthcare they need, while spreading the word of acceptance for everyone. (Not to mention that I'd happily pay more in taxes to fund said healthcare.)

When I'm met with something I don't understand, I have found how much easier it is to accept it than to reject it. “Oh, cool” is much nicer to say on a daily basis than “what is wrong with these people?”. You identify as something I'm unfamiliar with? Cool. If that is how you feel comfortable, I'd love to learn more and show you the respect you deserve. It takes hardly a modicum of effort on my part to accept something. You don't even have to read deep into it – just accept it, and let others feel validated. The flip side is to put in the energy – the negative energy – of rejecting it. It is taxing on your soul, and wages that same tax on others. Lose-lose.

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